Your First Real Heartbreak, Can it be Fatal?

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Heartbreak: my ache-y, brake-y, heart…

Heartbreak, happens, all the time. We have all been there before. We have all bled our hearts out, hurt until we couldn’t bear it anymore, and cried ourselves to sleep over lost love. Some of us even restort to alcohal, using it to battle against the emotional surge that accompanies heartbreak. As we binge we try to forget that person that hurt us…

No matter how bad your heart is broken, the world doesn’t stop for your grief” – Faraaz Kazi.

What about the heartbreak we experience after the loss of a loved one? Is it possible to get so stressed and emotionally disheveled that our lives are at risk?

New research has surfaced showing that the grief of losing a loved one doubles heart attack risks within 30 days of the loved one’s passing. Contrary to popular belief, our physical health is in fact at risk right after heartbreak or loss.

Dr. Sunil Shah, co-author of study, says

We think it is important that doctors, friends and family are aware of this increase risk of heart attacks and strokes so they can ensure care and support is as good as possible at a time of increased vulnerability before and after loss of a loved one.

The study concerns mostly individuals aged 60 to 89, but what if there is some underlying increase in health problems after each heartbreak starting from a young age? What if those three long term relationships that ended in heartbreak will lead to a string of health problems in the future? More importantly, what about everyone else going through relationship problems and experiencing anxiety over a heartbreak?

“Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation” – Kahlil Gibran.

Of course, there is a way to help your situation even before heartbreak occurs.

Related ArticleNo Heart? No Pulse? No Problem!

Researchers at the University of Rochester found that having a romantic movie date night could be more helpful then attending couples therapy! Are you dating someone who is not emotionally open to you? Watch the funny comedy Date Night, have some laughs, and talk about the movie afterwords. Or watch something more serious like Gone With The Wind, where one of you is bound to cry and pour out all of your emotions.  This could potentially be the key to avoiding future heartbreak.

The idea is that the time spent together and the discussions that ensue after watching a movie about a relationship will likely lead to healing and mending in your own relationship. If not, hopefully it leads to some romantic time together. (Giggity)

A movie is a nonthreatening way to get the conversation started,

says Ronald D. Rogge, associate professor of psychology at the University of Rochester.

It’s really exciting because it makes it so much easier to reach out to couples and help them strengthen their relationships on a wide scale.

The University of Rochester website provides interactive tools for couples as well as surveys and studies to participate in to help with their heartbreak woes!

If all else fails maybe it is time to move on….

“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option” – Mark Twain.  

Cheers to heartbreak!




JAMA Network: Increased Risk of Acute Cardiovascular Events After Partner Bereavement

University of Rochester

Good Reads: Kahlil Gibran

Good Reads: Faraaz Kazi

Good Reads: Mark Twain

University of Rochester: Divorce Rate Cut in Half for Couples Who Discussed Relationship Movies

University of Rochester: Couples Research

IMDB: Gone with the Wind (1939)

IMDB: Date Night

University of Rochester Faculty: Ronald D. Rogge

University of London: Dr. Sunil Shah

Youtube: Giggity Giggity, Giggity Goo


Wondergressive: No Heart? No Pulse? No Problem!

Facebook: Glorifying and Depressing

Why is it that I go on Facebook to kill time when Facebook may actually be killing me over time?

A recent study of Facebook, conducted jointly by two German Universities, has shed light on why I am so miserable some days and other days too darn happy to measure on a sensible happiness scale. 600 participants were studied while they logged on to Facebook and 1 in 3 were reportedly unsatisfied towards the end of their session. The study describes an interesting phenomenon the researchers call the self promotion – envy spiral. I follow you on Facebook (auto correct still tries to correct Facebook as face book, I think Mark Zuckerberg is working on that), because we are friends or acquaintances or I think I know you somehow, thus I am constantly updated with the pictures of that vacation you just went on or that new relationship you are engaging in. That would be all hunky dory and what not but now I am envious of your self-promotion of happiness. Your happiness is making me miserable… true Yin and Yang huh? Or maybe it’s the other way around? It’s likely one of us is making the other miserable 33% of the time.

We were surprised by how many people have a negative experience from Facebook with envy leaving them feeling lonely, frustrated or angry,

Researcher Hanna Krasnova from the Institute of Information Systems at Berlin’s Humboldt University told Reuters,

From our observations some of these people will then leave Facebook or at least reduce their use of the site.

Now I know that YOU know at least one person that has left Facebook in the last month or so because of the “It takes up too much of my time” excuse, but maybe that person simply couldn’t stand being miserable anymore. It may also be that this self imposed misery is our fate as the internet has become a norm in our society, ultimately giving birth to news and information which can be received at the convenience of a click of a mouse. That is instantaneous misery available to you as long as you have access to the internet. One has to think that it may not only be Facebook and the internet that are causing our misery but also all of the advancements in technology which are meant to improve our quality of life.

So what if your better looking than me? I wouldn’t wear that out in public, makes her look trashy. I’m happy that you just got engaged and I’m still single! That trip to Burma seems like it is enjoyable, glad you could share it with me here in zero degree weather. But of course I’ll make it to the award ceremony where you will be receiving prestige and applause for your work in molecular biology!

So much stress… definitely bad for your health. Darn you Mark Zuckerberg and your new age sexiness.. you planned this world wide web gloat/grief relationship didn’t you?



Gay Man Given Maternity Leave in Brazil

For the first time in history Brazil has given a gay man 4 months of maternity leave so he can care for his adopted child.

Brazilian law requires a mother to have 4 months of leave and a father to have 5 days. That is progressive in and of itself, but now a gay man has been granted the same. Brazil has stated that gay couples will still have to request a 4 month leave on an individual basis, but it’s still a step in the right direction.

Leave the politics and religion out and keep the well being of the child in mind!

By the way, Brazil is also the first country to allow a 3-way legal union between a man and two women.  I don’t mean this man has two wives, all three people are actually married to each other.

And guess what?  The world didn’t explode!  Why are we so obsessed with who or what people love? If a man or woman loves a car let them marry the car and pump their gas into it in peace!